“19
tips for attracting new friends faster than bees to a honey pot!”
by:
Kevin Martyn
www.being-happy.co.uk
I
think most of us
like to be popular and in demand.
It’s
also nice to attract new friends so long as they are of a good quality
and understand the symbiotic requirements of maintaining a good relationship.
If
you follow the below tips and give the process a little effort and concentration
you will soon be attracting new friends and acquaintances like
a magnet. They will also bring much happiness, achievement and success
and into your life!
Making
new friends – tip 1
First
impressions count!
We
only have one chance to make a first impression so always be prepared
as we can not always predict when the opportunity to make new friends
and acquaintances will arise. Your level of grooming and personal hygiene
and the way you dress will be a big part of making a good impact.
Just important however is the way in which you
approach someone and what you say. So study the body language of the
people you feel are successful and popular communicators.
Making
new friends – tip 2
Be
relaxed
Meeting and making friends should be an enjoyable
process so have fun, lots of it. Be happy with the unique person you
are and remember you have nothing to prove to anyone, some friendships
will be right for you and others will not, so just take them as they
come. Remember, some will, some won’t, and someone is always waiting!
Making
new friends – tip 3
Smile
as much as possible
When you smile you are showing the world how
you feel inside, I hope you are happy. Smiling is one of the strongest
and most obvious indications that you are none aggressive and friendly.
So share a genuine smile with as many people as possible, it is a great
way of attracting potential new friends and sharing a little happiness
with others.
Making
new friends – tip 4
Be
happy
Everyone loves a happy person and the way just
being in their presence can make you feel. By contrast few of us enjoy
the company of someone who is grumpy or miserable. Being happy and positive
can be quite infectious so share your happiness around and you will
always be popular and make tons of new friends.
Making
new friends – tip 5
Hold
strong eye contact
Poor eye contact can mean low levels of confidence
and in some cases even insincerity. However, when you look into someone’s
eyes it builds the levels of trust and shows you have nothing to hide.
Making
new friends – tip 6
Use
an enthusiastic greeting
Develop the habit of greeting people as if you
are really pleased to see them. Let them know you have a passion for
life and greet them acordingly. When someone asks after my health I
usually reply with ‘I am fantastic’ or ‘really great’
and being so positive makes them happy. Even if you do feel a bit under
the weather don’t tell them as no one appreciates a groaner.
Making
new friends – tip 7
Be
confident
Most of us appreciate strong character, so let
others see you have strong self confidence and belief in yourself. If
you need help in this area you may wish to seek the help of a life coach
who will make a fantastic investment into your levels of future happiness
and success.
Making
new friends – tip 8
Use
a firm handshake
A handshake can tell you many things about someone
when you are attracting new friends. A weak or limp handshake can be
very off putting. So can have your hand crushed in over enthusiasms.
In between the two would be about right for most of us.
Making
new friends – tip 9
Be
complimentary
It’s really not hard to find reasons to
offer sincere and well meant compliments to the people we meet. No one
is ever paid enough of them and apart from the sever sceptics, compliments
are usually well received and will make you memorable.
Making
new friends – tip 10
Be
nice to others
Neither is it difficult to find ways of going
that extra mile by being nice.
Often little acts of kindness make a huge impact on others and may be
remembered for years! Such acts may be as simple as holding a door open
or giving your seat on the bus to someone else, especially if they are
older. We all love nice and kind people as they bring a ray of sunshine
into out lives, what better way of making new friends!
Making
new friends – tip 11
Only
say good things
Every time you make a poor quality comment about
someone behind their back (however deserved) you create negative energy
which will come back to you in other ways. So if you can’t say
something good about whomever, it is better to say nothing at all. Most
of us admire this none judgemental quality and so it would be a good
habit to develop for attracting new friends.
Making
new friends – tip 12
Be
humble
One
of the most admirable qualities a person can possess is that of humility
and playing down their achievements in life. By contrast few of us like
or want the company or friendship of an outspoken, self-centred and
boastful people!
The
following six tips are particularly important and will help you make new
friends and become popular with almost everyone!
Making
new friends – tip 13
Give
your full attention
When you are speaking to just one person focus
solely upon them and give them your full attention. Dismiss what is
happening around you and concentrate as if they were the most important
person in the world.
Making
new friends – tip 14
Listen
carefully
When you allow someone to say all they want without
interruption it may be the first time it has happened to them since
they were a child. Such listening skills are rare and always in demand.
Just nod encouragingly as they talk and only interrupt them with the
occasional encouraging question. Do this and you will elevate yourself
to a high position on their list of important and liked people.
Making
new friends – tip 15
Be
understanding
We will always have our own opinion which is
the way it should be. However, when you can put yourself in the shoes
of someone else and see the situation from their point of view also
you will have grown as a person. Accept their uniqueness and don’t
share your opinion unless it is asked for.
Making
new friends – tip 16
Speak
about them
The most important person in the world to us
as individuals is ourselves. Most people like speaking about themselves
and like the people that listen to them when they are speaking about
their favourite subject. You may also find it interesting to discover
more about them and they way they think as it will greatly improve your
communication skills.
Making
new friends – tip 17
Make
people feel important
By using a mixture of the above four tips you
will make that person feel special and important! You have paid them
a big honour and much respect as well as demonstrating that you have
some rare and valuable skills. They will find it difficult not to like
you after you have given them so much attention.
Making
new friends – tip 18
Be
giving of your time
When someone wants to speak or has a problem,
be prepared to give them some of your time. I promise you that in the
long run your consideration will be repaid many times over.
Even if you can’t listen immediately make
an appointment with them and ask them up front how much of your time
do they think they will need? Highlighting the value and importance
of your time in this way will help to focus them on their outcome.
Making
new friends – tip 19
Send them a note
Get into the habit of sending little notes after
you have met someone. It may be a thank you or just a quick compliment
or even telling them it was great meeting them. In this modern day of
email, msn and text messaging it is inexpensive or even FREE to do so.
I promise you that with a little persistence
going the extra mile in this way will pay and return you dividends.
This is the practise of one of the most successful and popular people
I know. He told me it only takes a few minutes to send such notes each
day and the rewards are tremendous.
Finally
All of the above tips you have just discovered
will generate positive energy. Life is much like a mirror and what we
give out we will get back only it is usually magnified many times.
So by learning to master and develop these simple
tips into strong habits you will not only be helping the people you
meet and be making new friends, but also attracting positive energy
and actions towards you.
Have
fun
Kevin
Martyn is the author of “14 life changing steps that lead to lasting
happiness!” and coaches and mentors on a variety of life improving
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